Swim Lessons Can Prevent Drowning In Backyard pools

portable swimming pool    A recent (6/20/2011) article from msnbc.com claims “Portable pools claim a child’s life every 5 days” This article is a great wake up call for all parents and care givers. The before mentioned article has a lot of great information on prevention such as parent supervision, life jackets, blocking the ladder etc. And also gives valuable information on how CPR may help in a near drowning event.

I was a little disappointed in this article’s vagueness and lack  of other information about preventative measures, particularly that of swimming lessons and their role in prevention. Yes you should watch your kids. Yes you should block the ladder when you aren’t available to provide supervision. One of the biggest and most effective preventative measures to ensure your child has a greater chance of not drowning is to teach them how to swim! Here is a nice article from the Los Angeles Times that tells us a child that knows how to swim is up to 85% less likely to drown. This article is over 2 years old and children are still drowning at the rate of 1 every 5 days on average for warm months. This tells me we are not teaching our children to swim early enough. Or people just forget.

For your reference I will be posting links for you to find and compare swim lessons as well as find a CPR class. Click here to find swim lessons in your area, you can modify the search by adding your local town, village, city, township etc. eg: swimming lessons Toledo. Another thing the other article left out was how to learn CPR. You can click here to find child and infant CPR classes, in the case that you encounter a child drowning- You will know what to do.

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Parents Need To Stand Up To Childhood Obesity

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http://www.CarsToHelpKids.org Parents love their children, right? Well, childhood obesity statistics say otherwise. Almost 60% of children in America are obese children. Interesting enough, the rate of overweight children is increasing! A study in 2002 stated that 22% of U.S preschoolers … Continue reading

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How To Protect Your Child From Child Abuse

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Look Out For The Many Signs of Child Abuse

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Know The Facts & Causes About Child Abuse

Children are the most precious living things on earth. They can bring so much joy to families and friends. However, children are unaware of the many dangers of life. That is where parents come in.

As parents we are responsible for teaching kids to look both ways before crossing or to never talk to strangers. Unfortunately, we must let our children go out on their own from time to time. Parents can only hope that their child listened and took them seriously. If my parents did not make me aware that there are “human monsters” in the world, I may have become a staggering statistic of child abuse.

The facts on child abuse is horrifying. 84 percent of prison inmates were abused as children. One in three girls and one in five boys are sexually abused by an adult at some time during childhood. Large families (families of four or more children) have higher rates of abuse and neglect. Over 80 percent of the child abusers are a parent or someone close to a child. In fact, child abuse is much more likely to occur in the child’s home than in at school or in a day care center. One in thirteen kids with a drug addicted parent are abused on a regular basis. Finally, one out of ten babies are born to mothers who are abusing drugs and alcohol. Drinking alcohol during pregnancy is already harmful for the health of unborn children.

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Types of Child Abuse

Types of Child Abuse

By definition, child abuse is defined as a variety of abnormal and abusive behavior directed against children. There are many types of child abuse, however, each type of child abuse has the potential to change their life forever.

  1. Child Sexual Abuse: is any activity that uses a child to experience sexual pleasure. Giving a child a handshake or a hug is completely normal. It should be easy to distinguish the normal signs of affection between sexual abuse. The intent to use a child for sexual arousal is illegal and will harm the child for the rest of their life.

To put it simply, any sexual activity that may occur between a grown man and woman should never be used on a child. No one, including parents should ever touch a child’s genitals with the intention of creating sexual feelings. Child sexual abuse would also include excessive kissing, cuddling, touching and French kissing. Children should not be forced to take off their clothes with the intent of becoming sexually aroused. 

The other types of child sexual abuse is the videotaping, photographing or filming of children. Some perpetrators even expose children to erotic literature and movies. Disgustingly, some abusers even put pictures of their victims on Facebook!

Parents, please pay attention to your child’s relationships with adults. Watch out for excessive touching and any abnormal behavior between others. The best way to identify the physical signs of child abuse is to know the normal appearance of your child’s body. Look for any bruises or problems with his or her genitals. Consult your family physician if necessary.

Also, observe sudden changes in your child’s behavior. Watch out for discipline problems such as bed wetting, depression, continuous nightmares, fecal soiling and insomnia. If you suspect that your child is being abused, consult a professional immediately. Professionals such as the APSAC can evaluate your child properly to explore the possibility of child sexual abuse.

Other signs of Sexual Abuse in Children:

  • Withdrawal or anti-social attitude.
  • Refusal or extreme anxiety to undress for physical education or sports.
  • Abnormal interest in sex with other children.
  • Strange seductive behavior.
  • Fear of intimate contact (hugging or kiss to say goodbye or goodnight)
  • Torn, stained, or bloodied clothing

2. Physical Abuse In Children

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Physically Abused Children

The physical abuse of children is described as excessive physical injury to a child or excessive punishment of a child. Beatings, torture and the assault of children are the common types of physical abuse. Commonly, loved ones including parents will lose their patience with their child and will hit their child. However, there is a big difference in discipling your child and abusing them.

Spanking your child is a normal form of discipline. I was spanked as a child and I can attest to the fact that it works. It made me think twice about disobeying my parents again. However, if it becomes excessive and is unnecessary; it is classified as physical abuse.  For example, let’s say your child gets caught in a lie. In addition, you believe he or she is not taking your verbal reprimand seriously. It is perfectly normal to spank your child to make sure that they understand Spanking children abusethat lying is an unacceptable habit to form. However, if you continuously spank your child for minutes at a time, you may be taking it too far. Also, using objects such as belts, paddles, sticks or other objects to discipline your child is wrong. Those objects will cause severe injury to a child.

Spanking a child is designed to condition a child to never repeat the poor behavior or decision. However, causing your child to bleed or develop severe bruises is excessive and unnecessary to the process.

Raising a child can be quite a challenge. Children can do things that will make every bone in your body rattle in anger. However, parents need to control their anger and  never take out their frustrations out on their child.

Read this article on How to Include Spanking in Child Discipline

3. Child Neglect:

Children that are neglected are poorly cared for. They have dirty and torn clothing, insufficient or no medical care and are not fed adequately. Poor families often neglect their children, however, it is a criminal offense to not provide your child with the basic needs of life. Poor families must seek help from social services in any situation in which children have less-than-adequate care!

If you know of a child that does not have a consistent source of food or shelter, please contact a homeless shelter or social service. Ignoring the problem will not resolve anything. Often there is help for families that are struggling financially. It is the parents responsibility to continue to get help for a child who is not doing well or who is improperly cared for. If parents fail to seek help for their child, criminal action can take place and child protective services will remove them from the home and will place them in foster care.

4. Emotional Neglect:

Children are just as delicate physically as they are emotionally. Children seek attention from their parents. Often children that are emotionally neglected develop rebellious behaviors and avoid their parents. It can even cause social problems such as the inability to interact with other children or excessive attachments to anyone who will pay attention to them. These abnormal behaviors in young children will only continue to haunt them into their adult life. It will often transform into personality or mental disorders that can be difficult to treat.

What Can Parents Do To Avoid Neglecting Their Child

As parents we need to have a strong relationship with our children. Here are some tips to follow to avoid neglecting your child:

  1. Spend time with your child in entertainment and learning activities.
  2. Make sure you show your child love and affection.
  3. Be involved with your children. Spend time learning about their favorite activities. Attend their sporting events or other events they are involved with.
  4. Does your child have excessive behavioral problems? If so, take the appropriate steps to resolve their behavioral problems.
  5. Supervise the time you are caring for children instead of letting them be on their own and unsupervised.
  6. Do you notice that your relationship with your child is strained? Is there excessive yelling, anger, resentment and punishment?
  7. Do you have poor behaviors that you practice in front of your children that promotes bad behavior? Such as drug use, profanity or physical violence?

It is the parents responsibility to recognize all of these problems and seek help if necessary. Often there is help for emotional neglect through parental training courses, reading and effort.

5. Child Abuse-Failure to Thrive:

The final type of child abuse we are going to discuss is called failure to thrive. It is a condition in which children fail to develop to their full genetic physical and mental potential. It is often caused by medical problems that stunt the growth of children. In some cases, parents intentionally and unintentionally ignore the problems.

Children should see their doctor yearly to monitor their rate of growth. Often doctors can discover health problems that be easily resolved at an early age. Medical conditions that affect growth can be easily tested and treated at an early age. There have been cases where parents are suspected of intentional abuse such as not feeding their child, feeding their child harmful foods, emotional neglect and not seeking medical care when their child is sick. If failure to thrive is considered, parents must adhere with the doctor’s recommendations regarding testing and other investigations. If parents fail to comply, the doctor’s suspicion that the parent is not helping the problem will increase!

Ten Things To Do Instead of Hurting a Child

Source: Baltimore County-Facts About Child Abuse

  1. Take a deep breath. Take a few more. Remember, you are the adult.
  2. Close your eyes and imagine you are hearing what your child is about to hear, or receiving the same punishment.
  3. Press your lips together and count to 20.
  4. Put the child in a “time-out” chair for a number of minutes. The rule is one minute for each year of age.
  5. Put yourself in a “time-out” chair. Are you really angry at the child or is it something else.
  6. Call a friend to talk about it. If you need to, dial 1-800-4-A-CHILD (National Child Abuse Hotline).
  7. If someone can watch the children, go out for a walk.
  8. Take a hot bath or splash cold water on your face.
  9. Turn on some music. Sing along if you want.
  10. Pick up a pencil and write down a list of helpful words, not words that will hurt. Save the list. Use these words.


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We need to protect our most cherished asset. Children! They are helpless at times, but good parents can show them the right path to success. Look out for possible cases of child abuse. Report the case to social services or contact local law enforcement. If you are an adult that believes that you have abused a child, please seek help. There is no shame in getting help. However, the entire world will never forgive you if you abuse a child.

@Cars To Help Kids is a child abuse non profit organization accepting car donations to help provide families support to fight child abuse.

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Help Your Child or Teen Avoid Facebook Depression

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Facebook & Social Media Causes Depression In Teenagers?

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Facebook Depression

Parents deserve more respect. Raising a teenager can be so difficult. Teenagers go through so many changes. They face many challenges such as physical, social and mental changes. It can be hard for some teenagers to avoid temptation and to keep their self confidence in check. It can be equally as difficult for parents to let their son or daughter go through the changes.

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Twitter Causes Depression

High school can make or break the maturity process of a teenager. Teenagers learn new talents and learn what their strengths and weaknesses are. If you were like me, you just find ways to survive through the awkward years and tell yourself that college life will be better. (That is the truth) There are others that struggle  to fit in and feel as though they are worthless. Offensive remarks and peer pressure can cause some teenagers to go through periods of depression. Some teenagers find ways to beat their depression, while others are  never able to escape the demons of depression. Parents be aware, a new source of depression is emerging and it might come from a unlikely source; Facebook!

Facebook Depression

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Online Bullying

According to Facebook, there are over 500 million active users with 50% of active users logging on every day. The average user has 130 friends! Facebook allows anyone to find old friends, post pictures, tell people what you are doing and network with people in your field. As with many things in life, people find ways to abuse the social media networks by stalking others, bullying others online and hacking personal accounts to obtain personal information. I am going to focus on the negative impact Facebook is having on teenagers.

As parents, you may be skeptical of the fact that Facebook and other social media sites are causing some teens to become depressed, but it is the truth. As the Today show recently reported, some Facebook users are becoming depressed after spending time viewing other friends Facebook pages.

One of the main benefits of social media is the fact that we can openly share information to people across the world. However, some teenagers view pages of their friends and begin to feel inadequate. Perhaps, many of their classmates deny friend requests. Others may even bully others online. Some may be jealous of their friends that post messages on Facebook. One of the biggest attention getters on Facebook is the relationship status application. Whenever someone posts a relationship update, such as single or in a relationship, it can cause quite a stir. At times, some teens may be jealous as they observe that most of their friends have a significant other.

As the video on Facebook depression shows, teenagers can feel depressed when they login to discover that many of their friends on Facebook do not care. Facebook can even cause some teens to isolate themselves. The online community leaves users easily susceptible to online bullying and this problem will not go away.

What Can Parents Do To Help Their Child Avoid “Facebook Depression”?

Try to limit the amount of time your child or teenager spends on Facebook or Twitter. Pay attention to sudden mood changes. Visit their Facebook page and read what their friends are posting on their wall. First and foremost, make sure your child understands that everything they post on their wall and photo album can be viewed by all their friends. The emerging social media network is a great thing for society to stay updated with friends and family. However, the side affect is that users are not afraid to voice their opinion online about other people. Teenagers that already have social anxieties may easily fall into depression after using Facebook. If you already know your child has low self-confidence, it would be a great idea to monitor your teen’s Facebook usage. Good luck parents!

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Obama Pushes An Education Reform With More Funding

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Obama’s Push For Education Reform In 2011

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Currently, President Obama is encouraging America to improve the education system. Does this mean that Obama was listening to the Black Eyed Peas message at the Super Bowl?

We may never know the true answer, but that is not important. However, the important fact is that the Obama administration is tossing around the idea of increasing education spending to help schools that are consistently failing to educate their students. Obama was quoted saying “There’s nothing responsible about cutting back on investments in these young people.”

That might be the most intelligent words that have come out of his mouth. After all, it won’t take much analytical research to discover that the education system in America lags behind other countries. The blame can be pointed at everyone. From poor parenting, teachers, administrations, lack of funding and of course; the students.

Some wealthy and middle class parents are guilty of focusing more on their career and fail to notice that their children are not taking advantage of their education. Families in low income areas are essentially “stuck” in their neighborhoods and fear to send their child to school.  Homeless children are forced to focus solely on surviving through the night. All these circumstances make it extremely difficult to learn the basics of life.

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 Lately, Obama has been making public appearances discussing the current education system in America. Standing in front of a blue banner that reads “Winning the Future”, Obama is calling for an increase in funding for education. He argues that the United States needs a better-educated workforce to ensure it remains economically competitive. I hate to sound sarcastic, but “Duh”. Even blondes could figure that out! (No offense blondes, I just like to tease you)

Obama is proposing a grant program that would give funding to companies that have the best ideas for using computer software and other technology innovations. The administration is also attempting to rewrite the “No Child Left Behind” law by the end of 2011 and increase the funding for education in the 2012 budget. Due to the struggling economy, congress has shown no indication of supporting this increase of spending on education.

The No Child Left Behind law was passed in 2002 with good intention. However, the education system has seen little or no improvement. Obama said “We’re going to replace it with a law that does a better job focusing on responsibility, reform and results”. I totally agree with Obama on this one, but I would like to see this put into action!

I believe America needs to focus on technology more in school. Our future will depend more and more on technology. We need to educate children on how to maximize the true potential of technology. It will be very interesting to see how congress handles this proposal. If this education reform passes, will our children be able to benefit from it? Only time will tell. What do you think? Share your thoughts by commenting below!


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Parents: Do You Leave Your Child In The Dark?

Are Your Children The #1 Priority In Life?

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Raise Your Child For Success

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Answer this question honestly; Are your children the number one priority in your life? Do you put your career before your family? Do you spend more time with your friends than your children?

If you answered no to the first question, you should carefully reconsider your priorities in life. The most important parenting skill to master is putting your child first; ALWAYS!

I know many parents around my age of 25-35 that recently had their firstborn child. At first, they can not leave their baby out of sight. As parents get use to the idea of being a parent, they find themselves getting frustrated with the idea of getting less sleep, changing diapers and having little or no social life. While this is a common frustration, your child depends on you. They depend on your love and they crave your attention!

At this point of frustration, some of my acquaintances decide that having a good time is more important than raising their child. On the weekends, they party all night. They hire babysitters, family and friends to watch their child. They even spend their money on frivolous things instead of buying new clothes and games that help them grow mentally and socially. For instance, I have a friend that has no problem spending $30-50 on alcohol every weekend, but they complain that they cannot afford to buy their child new clothes. Oh well, I guess it is acceptable for their child to look like they are homeless.

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Parents: Stop Acting Like A Child

As parents, we all had our shot at childhood and as a teenager. We had our chance to play in the mud and to dance until 3 a.m. However, once we grow maturely and become a parent, our number one priority is raising our child. It does not matter if we have regrets of missed opportunities to “party like a rock star”. If you want to raise your child for success, you better stop acting like a child.

Your Goals As A Parent

Every parents goal should be to make your child’s life better than yours was. That could mean becoming better listeners, participating more in their life and helping them find their passion in life. Trust me, the more effort you put into motivating your child to succeed, the easier it will be for you as a parent when they become a teenager. As you may already know, children will study their parents actions and behaviors. They will often use you as a model of how to behave in society. If your child does not see you as a role model, you are leaving your child in the dark.

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Your Child's Hero?

If you were to ask your son or daughter of who their real life hero was, what would their answer be? If they respond with Lebron James or Peyton Manning, you should take offense to that. While it is completely normal for a child to idealize athletes, your child should also look up to YOU (MOM and DAD). Not to mention, athletes do not usually make good role models.

What Your Child Needs

Many moms and dads have to work part-time or full-time jobs to pay the bills. However, if you both are working, who is really raising your child? Your teachers or maybe even your babysitter? If this example sounds familiar to you, you should consider altering your work schedule so that you can be there to make sure your child always has what they need. It might be worth sacrificing some of your earnings to raise your child. Take a look at your budget! Is there any wasteful expenses such as HD cable or high tech phones? If so, get rid of those items to save money. While you may feel it is necessary to work long hours to buy things for your child, a child needs your attention and support even more.

advice for childrenGrowing up can be difficult. They need a good role model that they can ask for advice when needed. If you are not there to answer their questions, who will be? If you choose a path that limits your quality time that you can spend with your child, you could be leaving them in the dark. Don’t leave it up to your child to find the light. Make it your number one priority to show your child the pathway to happiness and success!

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Top Five Charities Helping Kids

Nonprofit Charitable Organizations To Watch In 2011

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Jeff Gordon-Drive To End Hunger

1. Jeff Gordon-The Drive To End Hunger

Actually, this nonprofit organization helps provide food and support to the elderly. However, with more than six million seniors facing the threat of hunger, it is worthwhile to share this great effort.  In my view, having four-time NASCAR Sprint Cup Champion as your spokesperson is a great way to help the ones in need! In addition, yesterday Jeff Gordon ended his 66 race win less streak by passing the talented Kyle Busch in the closing laps. Congrats Jeff Gordon on your impressive win and hopefully your win will bring more awareness to your cause! See the video on Jeff Gordon’s impressive win at Phoenix here.

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Car Donation Charity for Kids

2. Car Donation Charity Helping Kids

Since we are on the topic of cars, how about the idea of donating your car to help children? That’s right, you can now donate your vehicle to help children in need. CarsToHelpKids is committed to supporting children’s hospitals, mentoring and educational programs, and funding various outreach initiatives that meet the needs of children in our communities. All vehicle donations are tax deductible. Therefore you can get rid of your old car or truck quickly and for free. Best of all, you can get more money back on your 2011 tax return and help children at the same time. This is truly a great new way of helping nonprofit organizations help children.

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Big Brothers Big Sisters Organization

3. Big Brothers Big Sisters of America

While this organization is not new, it is a great foundation that is focusing on helping children through the ages of 6-18. It is a great cause that everyone should consider when thinking about helping a child in need. Donations is not the only way you can help Big Brothers Big Sisters reach their fund raising goals. You can also volunteer your time by mentoring and coaching young people!

Core Programs

  • Community-Based Mentoring
  • School-Based Mentoring
Special Programs

  • African-American Mentoring
  • Hispanic Mentoring
  • Native American Mentoring
  • Mentoring Military Children
  • Amachi Program
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Boys & Girls Club

4. Boys & Girls Club

The Boys & Girls Club began in 1860 as an alternative for boys that were roaming the streets. The Boys & Girls club is located in most locations across the United States. They offer youth programs and activities every day. They also have special programs such as:

  • Education
  • The Environment
  • Health
  • The arts
  • Careers
  • Alcohol/drug prevention
  • Pregnancy prevention
  • Gang prevention
  • Ledershop development
  • Athletics
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5. Make A Wish Foundation

Since 1980, the Make A Wish Foundation has been giving hope, strength and joy to children with life-threatening medication conditions. It is a organization that is well known across the country for putting a smile on the face of children that have little to smile about.

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